My wife and I have four kids. They’re thirty-three, thirty, twenty-nine, and sixteen. Yep, sixteen. But, because she’s adopted, she thinks we love her brother and sisters more. Why? In her words, “Because you treat me like I’m still a kid.” To which we respond, “You ARE a kid.” The eye roll ensues, and then we’re back to square one. The reality is we do treat our older kids differently because they’re adults. We’re also grandparents—and that makes it even worse because we try to spoil our grandkids. What helps ease the tension? Constant affirmation. Stories about her siblings’ childhood help her realize that we weren’t all that different with them. Psalm 133:1 says, “How good and pleasant it is when brothers [and sisters] dwell in unity” (ESV).

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Suggested Reading: Psalm 133:1,, Mathew 18:22,, Romans 12:10