Can I be blunt? Teenagers aren’t always very logical. Some can argue the color of the sky. It can be frustrating. But, if you’re like me, the passion begins pouring out, and before I know it—yep, I’m yelling. That’s when I know I’ve lost. When it gets loud, our kids stop listening, even with the best words. It’s okay to be stern, but be tender, compassionate, and to the point. Our kids need us to be clear. Ambiguity causes many teens to believe we’re wishy-washy or uncertain. They may not like our tactlessness, but they won’t ever have to ask the question, “What do you mean?” Proverbs 15:1: “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (ESV).

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Suggested Reading: Proverbs 15:1