That dreaded Christmas program. Your daughter has a major part. She agreed to do it, but with just days before the performance she does NOT want to do it. She’s scared to death, and you don’t blame her. Have you ever thought that maybe she’s scared because YOU are. Seriously, I’ve seen it happen. On the other hand there are some parents who want their very shy kids to have the leading roll to get them out of their comfort zones. That can be a disaster. While that may be something we may enjoy, our kids might not. Let them decide – encourage them. Help them. Where do I draw the line? School programs. Yes, they HAVE to do those group events.