Your child may have a deep wound.
I ran across this infographic on Facebook recently. It said, “The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways.” As a parent of an adopted child, this struck a chord with me. When [...]
I’m not a parent
There’s nothing more heart wrenching than not being able to have children of your own. I know. My wife and I struggled with infertility, and that's why we adopted. But if fostering or adoption isn’t God’s calling on your life, [...]
So, I’m like a dog?
The last thing your adopted child wants to be associated with is a stray dog or cat. As a dad of a “chosen” daughter, I cringe at comments I hear from well meaning friends and family. I read a story [...]
She’s treating my wife just awful!
Mother-daughter relationships can be difficult. Especially if both are pretty strong-willed. Add an adoption into the mix and you can have fireworks. Let’s face it, we’re all broken people. Many adoptees feel like they don’t belong. If attachment issues are [...]
It’s so good what you did for her.
That’s a common response when people find out we adopted our daughter. But that statement couldn’t be more wrong. There are many other statements that actually fit better. Like, “That young lady has been a blessing in your life.” Or, “She’s [...]
I’m not a parent
There’s nothing more heart wrenching than not being able to have children of your own. I know. My wife and I struggled with infertility, and that's why we adopted. But if fostering or adoption isn’t God’s calling on your life, [...]
Your child may have a deep wound
I ran across this infographic on Facebook recently. It said, “The kids who need the most love will ask for it in the most unloving ways.” As a parent of an adopted child, this struck a chord with me. When [...]
So, I’m like a dog?
The last thing your adopted child wants to be associated with is a stray dog or cat. As a dad of a “chosen” daughter, I cringe at comments I hear from well meaning friends and family. I read a story [...]
She’s treating my wife just awful!
Mother-daughter relationships can be difficult. Especially if both are pretty strong-willed. Add an adoption into the mix and you can have fireworks, right? Let’s face it, we’re all broken people. Many adoptees feel like they don’t belong. If attachment issues [...]
Afterthoughts—they have it rough.
My wife and I have four kids. They’re thirty-three, thirty, twenty-nine, and sixteen. Yep, sixteen. Yes, we planned it. Not an afterthought at all. But, because she’s adopted, she thinks we love her brother and sisters more. Why? In her [...]